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		<title>The Biggest NYC Teen Author Festival Event EVER!</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:23:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[That&#8217;s right. It&#8217;s big. The biggest ever, in fact. 77 authors in one store on one day. How can you miss that? Answer: You can&#8217;t.
So, come by Books of Wonder on Sunday, March 21st between 2:00 and 6:00 PM and get books signed by these totally fantastic YA authors. Check below for specific signing times [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/nyctaf.gif"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-841" title="NYC_Teen_Author_Festival" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/nyctaf-150x150.gif" alt="NYC_Teen_Author_Festival" width="150" height="150" /></a>That&#8217;s right. It&#8217;s big. The biggest ever, in fact. 77 authors in one store on one day. How can you miss that? Answer: You can&#8217;t.</p>
<p>So, <strong>come by Books of Wonder on Sunday, March 21st between 2:00 and 6:00 PM </strong>and get books signed by these totally fantastic YA authors. Check below for specific signing times for each author. There are signing shifts in order to fit all the authors in the store. <strong>I&#8217;ll be there from 2:00-2:45 PM </strong>(because B is near the beginning of the alphabet. Loving that!) &#8211; and I get to sign with a really cool group.</p>
<p><strong>Books of Wonder is located at 18 W. 18th Street (between 5th and 6th Avenues) in Manhattan.</strong><br />
(Thanks to <a href="http://bookgirlsothers.blogspot.com/2010/02/second-annual-nyc-teen-book-festival.html" target="_blank">Book Girl Reviews</a> for putting together this amazing list of all the authors AND their books.)</p>
<p><span style="color: #333333; font-family: arial,'times New Roman',helvetica; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: 25px;">2:00-2:45</span><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Alma Alexander</span><br />
- Worldweavers: Gift of the Unmage<br />
- Worldweavers: Spellspam<br />
- Worldweavers: Cybermage<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Nora Raleigh Baskin</span><br />
- Anything But Typical<br />
- What Every Girl (Except Me) Knows<br />
- Almost Home<br />
- All We Know of Love<br />
- The Truth About My Bat Mitzvah<br />
- In the Company of Crazies<br />
- Basketball (or Something Like It)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Cathleen Davitt Bell</span><br />
- Slipping<br />
- Little Blog on the Prairie (May 11th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Judy Blundell</span><br />
- What I saw and How I Lied<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Libba Bray</span><br />
- Going Bovine<br />
- A Great and Terrible Beauty<br />
- Rebel Angels<br />
- The Sweet Far Thing<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Coe Booth</span><br />
- Tyrell<br />
- Kendra<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Elise Broach</span><br />
- Shakespeare&#8217;s Secret<br />
- Masterpiece<br />
- Desert Crossing<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Alexandra Bullen</span><br />
- Wish<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Nick Burd</span><br />
- The Vast Fields of Ordinary<br />
<span style="color: #ff00ff;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sarah Burningham (that&#8217;s me!)</span><br />
- Boyology: A Teen Girl&#8217;s Crash Course in All Things Boy<br />
- How to Raise Your Parents: A Teen Girl&#8217;s Survival Guide</span><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Susane Colasanti</span><br />
- When It Happens<br />
- Take Me There<br />
- Waiting For You<br />
- Something Like Fate (May 4th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Matt De La Pena</span><br />
- We Were Here<br />
- Mexican WhiteBoy<br />
- Ball Don&#8217;t Lie<br />
- I Will Save You (October 12th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Violet Haberdasher</span><br />
- Knightly Academy<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Maggie Stiefvater</span><br />
- Shiver<br />
- Linger (July 20th)<br />
- Lament: The Faerie Queen&#8217;s Deception<br />
- Ballad: A Gathering of Faeries</p>
<p><span style="font-size: 25px;">2:45-3:30</span><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Tom Dolby</span><br />
- Secret Society<br />
- The Trouble Boy<br />
- The Sixth Form<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Heather Duffy-Stone</span><br />
- This Is What I Want to Tell You<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Sarah Beth Durst</span><br />
- Ice<br />
- Into the Wild<br />
- Out of the Wild<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Elizabeth Eulberg</span><br />
- The Lonely Hearts Club<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Gayle Forman</span><br />
- You Can&#8217;t Get There From Here<br />
- If I Stay<br />
- Sisters in Sanity<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Aimee Friedman</span><br />
- Sea Change<br />
- The Year My Sister Got Lucky<br />
- French Kiss<br />
- South Beach<br />
- Hollywood Hills<br />
- A Novel Idea<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Jenny Han</span><br />
- Shug<br />
- The Summer I Turned Pretty<br />
- It&#8217;s Not Summer Without You (April 27th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Alice Hoffman</span><br />
- The Story Sisters<br />
- The Foretelling<br />
- Practical Magic<br />
- Turtle Moon<br />
- Here on Earth<br />
- Incantation<br />
- Slylight Confessions<br />
- The Ice Queen<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Carla Jablonksi</span><br />
- Silent Echoes<br />
- Thicker Than Water<br />
- The Books of Magic Series<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Melissa Kantor</span><br />
- Girlfriend Material<br />
- Confessions of a Not It Girl<br />
- If I Have a Wicked Stepmother, Where&#8217;s My Prince?<br />
- The Breakup Bible<br />
- The Amanda Project<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Kristen Kemp</span><br />
- I Will Survive<br />
- The Dating Diaries<br />
- Breakfast at Bloomingdale&#8217;s<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Michelle Knudsen</span><br />
- The Dragon of Trelian<br />
- Library Lion<br />
- Fish and Frog<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Peter Lerangis</span><br />
- WTF<br />
- The Spy X series<br />
- The Watchers series<br />
- The 39 Clues series<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">David Levithan</span><br />
- Love is the Higher Law<br />
- The Realm of Possibility<br />
- Boy Meets Boy<br />
- Wide Awake<br />
- Are We There Yet?<br />
- How They Met and Other Stories<br />
- Marly&#8217;s Ghost<br />
- Naomi and Ely&#8217;s No Kiss List<br />
- Nick &amp; Norah&#8217;s Inifite Playlist<br />
- Dash &amp; Lily&#8217;s Book of Dares (October 12th)</p>
<p><span style="font-size: 25px;">3:30-4:15</span><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Sarah Darer Littman</span><br />
- Purge<br />
- Confessions of a Closet Catholic<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Barry Lyga</span><br />
- Boy Toy<br />
- Hero-Type<br />
- The Astonishing Adventures of Fanboy and Goth GIrl<br />
- Goth Girl Rising<br />
- Wolverine: Worst Day Ever<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Robin MacCready</span><br />
- Buried<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Carolyn Mackler</span><br />
- Tangled<br />
- Guyaholic<br />
- Love and Other Four-Letter Words<br />
- Vegan Virgin Valentine<br />
- The Earth, My Butt and Other Big Round Things<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Sarah Maclean</span><br />
- The Season<br />
- Nine Rules to Break When Romancing a Rake (March 30th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Marianne Mancusi</span><br />
- Girls That Growl<br />
- Boys That Bite<br />
- Stake That<br />
- Bad Blood<br />
- A Connecticut Fashionista In King Arther&#8217;s Court<br />
- A Hoboken Hipster in Sherwood Forest<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Amanda Marrone</span><br />
- Uninvited<br />
- Revealers<br />
- Devoured<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Wendy Mass</span><br />
- Finally<br />
- Leap Day<br />
- A Mango-Shaped Space<br />
- Heaven Looks a Lot Like the Mall<br />
- Jeremy Fink and the Meaning of Life<br />
- 11 Birthdays<br />
- Every Soul A Star<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Lauren McLaughlin</span><br />
- Cycler<br />
- Recylcer<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Neesha Meminger</span><br />
- Shine, Coconut Moon<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Sarah Mlynowski</span><br />
- Fishbowl<br />
- Milkrun<br />
- How To Be Bad<br />
- Gimme a Call (April 27th)<br />
- Parties &amp; Potions<br />
- Frogs &amp; French Kisses<br />
- Bras &amp; Broomsticks<br />
- Spells &amp; Sleeping Bags<br />
- Monkey Business<br />
- As Seen on TV<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Michael Northrup</span><br />
- Beautiful Ecstasy<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Robin Palmer</span><br />
- Little Miss Red<br />
- Cindy Ella<br />
- Geek Charming</p>
<p><span style="font-size: 25px;">4:15-5:00</span><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Diana Peterfreund</span><br />
- Rampant<br />
- Ascendant (September 28th)<br />
- Tap &amp; Gown (Ivy League Novel)<br />
- Secret Society Girl (Ivy League Novel)<br />
- Under the Rose (Ivy League Novel)<br />
- Rites of Spring (Break)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Shani Petroff</span><br />
- Daddy&#8217;s Little Angel<br />
- The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly<br />
- Careful What You Wish For (June 10th)<br />
- Love Struck (December 23rd)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Olugbemisola Rhuday-Perkovich</span><br />
- Eighth-Grade Superzero<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Matthue Roth</span><br />
- Losers<br />
- Never Mind the Goldbergs<br />
- Yom Kippur a Go-Go: A Memoir<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Marie Rutkoski</span><br />
- The Cabinet of Wonders<br />
- The Celestial Globe (April 13th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Lisa Ann Sandell</span><br />
- A Map of the Known World<br />
- The Weight of the Sky<br />
- Song of the Sparrow<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Samantha Schutz</span><br />
- I Don&#8217;t Want To Be Crazy<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Elizabeth Scott</span><br />
- The Unwritten Rule (March 16th)<br />
- Something, Maybe<br />
- Stealing Heaven<br />
- Bloom<br />
- Perfect You<br />
- Living Dead Girl<br />
- Love You, Hate You, Miss You<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Kieran Scott</span><br />
- Geek Magnet<br />
- I Was a Non-Blonde Cheerleader<br />
- A Non-Blonde Cheerleader in Love<br />
- She&#8217;s So Dead to Us (May 25th)<br />
- Jingle Boy<br />
- Brunettes Strike Back<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Courtney Sheinmel</span><br />
- Positively<br />
- My So-Called Family<br />
- Sincerely: Sincerely, Sophie; Sincerely, Katie (June 8th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Sara Shepard</span><br />
- The Visibles<br />
- Pretty Little Liars series<br />
- All The Things We Didn&#8217;t Say<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Abby Sher</span><br />
- Kissing Snowflakes<br />
- Amen, Amen, Amen: Memoir of a Girl Who Couldn&#8217;t Stop Praying (Among Other Thing)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Jon Skovron</span><br />
- Struts &amp; Frets</p>
<p><span style="font-size: 25px;">5:00-5:45</span><br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Jennifer Smith</span><br />
- You Are Here<br />
- The Comeback Season<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Natalie Standiford</span><br />
- How To Say Goodbye In Robot<br />
- The Dating Game series<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Rachel Vail</span><br />
- Gorgeous<br />
- Lucky<br />
- You, Maybe: The Profound Asymmetry of Love in High School<br />
- If We Kiss<br />
- Do Over<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">David Van Etten</span><br />
- Likely Story<br />
- All That Glitters<br />
- Red Carpet Riot<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Siobhan Vivian</span><br />
- Same Difference<br />
- A Little Friendly Advice<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Adrienne Maria Vrettos</span><br />
- Skin<br />
- Sight<br />
- The Exile of Gigi Lane (April 6th)<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Melissa Walker</span><br />
- Violet on the Runway<br />
- Violet By Design<br />
- Violet in Private<br />
- Lovestruck Summer<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Robin Wasserman</span><br />
- Skinned<br />
- Crashed<br />
- Wired (September 14th)<br />
- Chasing Yesterday books<br />
- The Seven Deadly Sins series<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Suzanne Weyn</span><br />
- The Diamond Secret<br />
- Reincarnation<br />
- The Night Dance<br />
- The Crimson Thread<br />
- Distant Waves<br />
- The Bar Code Tattoo<br />
- Bar Code Rebellion<br />
- Water Song<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Lynn Weingarten</span><br />
- Wherever Nina Lies<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Martin Wilson</span><br />
- What They Always Tell Us<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Jake Wizner</span><br />
- Spanking Shakespeare<br />
- Castration Celebration<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Maryrose Wood</span><br />
- Why I Let My Hair Grow Out<br />
- How I Found the Perfect Dress<br />
- What I Wore to Save the World<br />
- My Life: The Musical<br />
- Sex Kittens and Horn Dawgs Fall in Love<br />
<span style="font-weight: bold;">Michelle Zink </span><br />
- Prophecy of the Sisters<br />
- Guardian of the Gate (August 1st)</span></p>
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		<title>dear Sarah: To Tell or Not to Tell?</title>
		<link>http://sarahburningham.com/2010/03/dear-sarah-to-tell-or-not-to-tell/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:37:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Your Question: I have a friend who just starting going out with this girl. We have become very close friends but I recently found out she has been cheating on him this whole time. Should I be honest with my friend I&#8217;ve known forever or not tell him because I don&#8217;t want to break his [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><strong><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/20080109-Cheating+GF.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-826" title="Cheating_Teens" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/20080109-Cheating+GF-150x150.jpg" alt="Cheating_Teens" width="150" height="150" /></a></strong><a href="http://community.abcfamily.go.com/blogs/secret-life-american-teenager/dear-sarah-5" target="_blank">Your Question:</a></strong> I have a friend who just starting going out with this girl. We have become very close friends but I recently found out she has been cheating on him this whole time. Should I be honest with my friend I&#8217;ve known forever or not tell him because I don&#8217;t want to break his heart? Please help.</p>
<p><strong>Dear Reader,</strong><br />
That&#8217;s a tricky one. Do you tell your friend and risk him being angry and taking it out on you? Or do you keep quiet and let him find his own way, knowing that eventually he&#8217;ll find out his girlfriend&#8217;s been cheating?</p>
<p>When it comes to dilemmas like these &#8212; tricky situations that could ruin a friendship &#8212; you should ask yourself two questions.</p>
<p>First, what&#8217;s your real reason for wanting to spill the beans? Think of it like this: Do you want to tell your friend his girlfriend is cheating because a little part of you might want to be his girlfriend? Be honest with yourself. If your reasoning is at all selfish, then you just need to stay out of it. And keep in mind that, most of the time, getting in the way of a relationship just makes things messier &#8212; not just for that relationship, but for your friendship too.</p>
<p>That said, here comes Question No. 2: What would you want a friend to do if the situation were reversed? Take this particular friend out of it and imagine you&#8217;re dating someone totally different and a friend comes to tell you he&#8217;s cheating. You might be suspicious, and you might take your hurt feelings out on the friend. Or you might be grateful that someone had the guts to tell you before you got too deep into the relationship.</p>
<p>Since every situation &#8212; and every friendship &#8212; is different, there&#8217;s a different way to handle this every time. Just think long and hard before you make the decision to break the news. If you do tell your guy friend, be sure to do it in private and, no matter what, DO NOT trash-talk the girlfriend. Keep it to facts, because it&#8217;s hard to hear that your girlfriend is cheating on you, even if it&#8217;s true. There&#8217;s no need to rub it in.</p>
<p>Good luck!<br />
xxx<br />
Sarah</p>
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		<title>dear Sarah: When a Guy Bails Without Even Breaking Up with You</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:09:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[dear Sarah,
A guy recently broke up with me without ACTUALLY breaking up with me&#8230; it made me feel completely worthless and unwanted. He didn&#8217;t even tell me to my face that he didn&#8217;t want to see me anymore, he just ignored me completely. I&#8217;m pretty sure the reason he did this was because he knew [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://community.abcfamily.go.com/blogs/secret-life-american-teenager/dear-sarah-0" target="_blank"><strong><strong></strong></strong></a><strong><strong><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/text-dumped-5002.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-811" title="Text_Message_breakup" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/text-dumped-5002-150x150.jpg" alt="Text_Message_breakup" width="190" height="190" /></a></strong>dear Sarah,</strong><br />
A guy recently broke up with me without ACTUALLY breaking up with me&#8230; it made me feel completely worthless and unwanted. He didn&#8217;t even tell me to my face that he didn&#8217;t want to see me anymore, he just ignored me completely. I&#8217;m pretty sure the reason he did this was because he knew I wouldn&#8217;t have sex with him. It happened awhile ago but I can&#8217;t seem to let it go. I really want to move on from it but it&#8217;s hard.</p>
<p>-Frustrated in Florida</p>
<p><strong>Dear Frustrated in Florida,</strong></p>
<p>First of all, good for you, standing your ground. You’re smart not to let anyone push you farther than you want to go. It’s hard to do, especially when you really care about someone and it sounds like you really cared about this guy. I’m sorry he doesn’t have enough class to talk to you face-to-face about breaking up. Even though you know now that he isn’t good enough for you, it still hurts to have someone treat you badly.</p>
<p>I know it’s not going to help the hurt, but you got lucky finding out what kind of person this guy is before you let the relationship go any farther. Anyone who is not adult enough to deal with your limits is not the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with.</p>
<p>My advice is to give yourself some more time to get over him and get this bad breakup out of your system. And I want to remind you that there are decent guys out there—guys who will respect your boundaries and love you for who you are, not how far you’re willing to go. So don’t give up on guys completely! When you’re ready, you’ll know. Until then, don’t be too hard yourself and take the time you need before moving on.</p>
<p>xxx<br />
Sarah</p>
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		<title>When Boy-Girl Relationships Start to Mean Something Different to Parents</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:06:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently did an interview with a very cool journalist, Myrna Haskell, who has a parenting column that runs in 10 different states. She asked smart questions, all from the parents point-of-view, about what do to when your teenager starts being interested in (gasp!) the opposite sex. Since we&#8217;ve all been there (even the parents!), [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/boy_girl_symbols.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-820" title="boy_girl_symbols" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/boy_girl_symbols-150x150.jpg" alt="boy_girl_symbols" width="150" height="150" /></a>I recently did an interview with a very cool journalist, Myrna Haskell, who has a parenting column that runs in 10 different states. She asked smart questions, all from the parents point-of-view, about what do to when your teenager starts being interested in (gasp!) the opposite sex. Since we&#8217;ve all been there (even the parents!), with your mom or dad wanting to know who keeps texting or calling, I thought Myrna&#8217;s article might provide some insight for both parent and teen. Here&#8217;s hoping it sparks a little conversation and makes for happy relationships!</p>
<p><a href="http://www.charlotteparent.com/Articles/Columns/DepartmentArticle.aspx?cid=1143&amp;subid=71" target="_blank">The article: No More Cooties! When Your Teen is Attracted to the Opposite Sex.</a></p>
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		<title>dear sarah: The Pressure to be &#8220;Beautiful&#8221; is TOO much</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jan 2010 17:26:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Sarah,
For a long time I really didn&#8217;t think I was pretty. In fact, I thought I was really ugly, and I had really low self-esteem. For a while I didn&#8217;t really think about it all that much, but now it keeps replaying in my head. I feel as if none of the boys are [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Dear Sarah,</strong><br />
For a long time I really didn&#8217;t think I was pretty. In fact, I thought I was really ugly, and I had really low self-esteem. For a while I didn&#8217;t really think about it all that much, but now it keeps replaying in my head. I feel as if none of the boys are interested in me, and none of them find me attractive. I&#8217;m going to be a freshman in high school next year and I really would like to meet a great guy and have a boyfriend, but where do I start??? And what can I do to feel better about my appearance?</p>
<p><strong>Dear Reader,</strong><br />
I’m so glad you asked this question. So many of the girls I know have felt exactly like this. There’s a lot of pressure to look a certain way and if you don’t, you might feel unattractive. The truth is, and I know this sounds cheesy (but it’s true!), beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.</p>
<p>The first step to feeling good about how you look is finding, and playing up, what makes you beautiful. My friend (and favorite makeup artist, <a href="http://www.carmindy.com" target="_blank">Carmindy</a>) calls this “feature focus.” Take a step back from the mirror. Think about your favorite feature. Maybe it’s your big eyes or your soft hands or the fact that you don’t have to flat-iron your hair when you want to wear it straight. Now, what can you do to emphasize this favorite part? Maybe some simple mascara or a manicure will make it pop. I’m not into a lot of makeup (and most guys aren’t either!) but sometimes a little something can give you that extra oomph you need and help boost your confidence. And remember that beauty comes from within, too. The fact that you can play Beethoven’s entire 5th Symphony on the piano or can do Beyonce’s “put a ring on it” dance, makes you beautiful.</p>
<p>Now, about the guys. Self-confidence is contagious. People want to be around those who make them feel good about themselves. And part of having self-confidence around other people is to not think so much about how you look. You won’t hear a really funny joke if you’re focused on whether or not your lipgloss is the right color. Try to enjoy the moment. You’ll have more fun and the guys you meet will, too!</p>
<p>xxx<br />
Sarah</p>
<p>And when you need a little reminder of what beauty really is, re-watch this Dove video on the distorted view of beauty in magazines:<br />
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		<title>dear sarah: I&#8217;m Falling for a Family Friend&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jan 2010 15:39:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[What do you do when you fall for a friend? And what if that friend happens to also be a family friend &#8211; as in, you know his parents, his parents know your parents, and they would all know if you suddenly started dating said friend? Here&#8217;s how to deal&#8230; (from my latest column with [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/DearSarah_Graphic.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-664" title="DearSarah_Graphic" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/DearSarah_Graphic-150x150.jpg" alt="DearSarah_Graphic" width="150" height="150" /></a><em>What do you do when you fall for a friend? And what if that friend happens to also be a family friend &#8211; as in, you know his parents, his parents know your parents, and they would all know if you suddenly started dating said friend? Here&#8217;s how to deal&#8230; (<a href="http://community.abcfamily.go.com/blogs/secret-life-advice/dear-sarah-5" target="_blank">from my latest column with ABC Family and Secret Life</a>)<br />
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<p><strong>Your Question:</strong> Ok so I really, really, really like this guy who happens to be one of my best friends and I&#8217;ve known him my whole entire life our families are really good friends. We don&#8217;t go to the same school but I see him on weekends with our families. I want to tell him that I like him and I have tried a couple of times but I got to nervous. Any ideas on how to tell him?</p>
<p>Thanks!<br />
Annabeth</p>
<p><strong>Dear Annabeth,</strong><br />
Crushing on a friend can be really nerve-wracking but it makes total sense. After all, you know him really well, as a friend first, and he probably knows you well, too. You know his sense of humor, what makes him nervous or upset, and how he treats his family – all important things to know about a potential boyfriend.</p>
<p>Since it can be overwhelming to come right out and say that you like someone, you can start dropping some pretty obvious hints that you like him.</p>
<p>First, since it sounds like you spend most of your time hanging out around your families, try suggesting that the two of you do something different. Not an official date, but maybe there’s a movie that you want to see or a school activity you want him to come to. If he seems up for being with you in a new situation, it’s a good sign that he might have feelings for you, too. See how it goes. If he seems to respond to your flirting (and is flirting back!), you’ll be able to tell if there might be a future for you two as a couple.</p>
<p>And then comes the big part – really telling him how you feel! Yes, you have to do it at some point. After all, you want to be able to be honest and straightforward in a relationship. But you can wait to profess your love until you’ve tested him out a little. Go out a few times and introduce him in to your life during the week. You’ll know when the moment is right. And in the meantime, have a great time getting to know him better and hanging out in different places. The process leading up to the relationship can be really fun, so enjoy it!</p>
<p>xxx<br />
Sarah</p>
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		<title>Lesson Learned on the Subway: Enjoy the Moment</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:49:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This post is going to make me sound old. But I don&#8217;t care. I&#8217;m going to write it anyway.
Let me set the scene for you: Saturday night on the E train, going from Queens (rock on!) to Manhattan for a house party. Ok, so I&#8217;m not that lame but I&#8217;m also not done yet. The [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/specialreports_2edb.new-york-subway-map.gif"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-795" title="new-york-subway-map" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/specialreports_2edb.new-york-subway-map-234x300.gif" alt="new-york-subway-map" width="234" height="300" /></a>This post is going to make me sound old. But I don&#8217;t care. I&#8217;m going to write it anyway.</p>
<p>Let me set the scene for you: Saturday night on the E train, going from Queens (rock on!) to Manhattan for a house party. Ok, so I&#8217;m not that lame but I&#8217;m also not done yet. The train car was pretty empty when I got on (come to find out that&#8217;s because it smelled like urine) and I quickly moved to the other, less smelly, end where a group of 7 teenagers was hanging out. I bet they were juniors, maybe seniors, in high school. The woman across from them had a pinched look on her face &#8211; a cross between terror and annoyance, but the only place I could sit away from the smell was next to one of the girls. So, earbuds in, I plopped myself down and started playing <a href="http://www.semisecretsoftware.com/wurdle/" target="_blank">wurdle</a>. (See, I am lame.)</p>
<p>For the next 15 minutes, I watched this group of friends, totally mesmerized. They weren&#8217;t doing anything special. After just one stop, the guys all stood up and bounced around the car &#8211; they literally couldn&#8217;t sit still &#8211; and the girls started laughing over some pictures on an iPhone. Every few minutes, one or all of the 4 guys would come over, hang on the bar and kind of droop themselves above the girls. They would say something stupid, the girls would laugh, one of their buddies would give them a friendly punch, and then one of the girls would hold up her phone with another video or picture or song. Repeat for 7 more stops.</p>
<p>Ok, here&#8217;s the lame part. I was totally entranced by the whole thing. I&#8217;ve been there. Not literally, I mean. I didn&#8217;t spend my high school years in New York riding the E train to Times Square. But there in the sense that I had those nights when everyone was in a good mood, when it wasn&#8217;t too cold for my favorite sweater and my best friend had a good hair day, and we felt like the whole world was coming together to make the night perfect for us. Cheesy, yes. But true. And watching those teenagers I went back to those moments. It just made me realize -  you have to enjoy those nights. They&#8217;re special and rare. I&#8217;ve let myself get stuck up on small things that don&#8217;t matter and have sometimes forgetten to relish those tiny moments when everything just flows and all of my friends laugh at the same joke and everyone&#8217;s all in the mood for chicken mcnuggets not pizza, and time seems to stop, at least for a second. They&#8217;re nice in memories but not as wonderful if you don&#8217;t actually live the moment. So do it. Enjoy them.</p>
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		<title>dear sarah: Dealing with &#8220;The End&#8221; of a Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Sep 2009 15:21:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[dear sarah,
So I&#8217;ve been dating this guy for 6 months and I really liked him at the beginning but now I&#8217;m having doubts whether I like him or not due to that he really doesn&#8217;t pay attention to me and we really don&#8217;t see each other. He claims that I&#8217;m the one that doesn’t have [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://community.abcfamily.go.com/blogs/secret-life-advice/dear-sarah-4" target="_blank"><strong><strong><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/15042.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-784" title="heartbreak_tornpaperheart" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/15042-300x198.jpg" alt="heartbreak_tornpaperheart" width="300" height="198" /></a></strong>dear sarah,</strong></a><br />
So I&#8217;ve been dating this guy for 6 months and I really liked him at the beginning but now I&#8217;m having doubts whether I like him or not due to that he really doesn&#8217;t pay attention to me and we really don&#8217;t see each other. He claims that I&#8217;m the one that doesn’t have time for him but that&#8217;s not true. Every time we make plans to go out he&#8217;s the one that always got something else to do and we end up not seeing each other. Lately, I&#8217;ve been thinking a lot whether I should continue dating him or not. PLEASE HELP ME. I&#8217;M CONFUSED!</p>
<p>Sincerely,<br />
Girl with a Confused Heart</p>
<p><strong>Dear Girl with a Confused Heart,</strong><br />
Sometimes uncertainty can drive you crazy! That in-between feeling—when you’re not exactly sure of what you want and you can’t tell what he’s thinking—is almost worse than flat-out heartbreak. But when you’re having doubts about whether or not you like a guy, it means you might not be all that into him, and that’s a good first sign of where your heart is. Don’t worry that you liked him 6 months ago when you first started dating. You’re allowed to change your mind. In fact, that’s why dating and breaking-up go hand in hand. First you like someone, then you get to know him better and you end up either liking him more or not as much. That’s what dating is all about! And if you don’t ever see each other, maybe that’s another sign it’s<br />
time to move on. I’m not saying break-ups are easy. In fact, even when you’re ready for them, they can be hard. But you won’t be in a position to meet the next guy you might really like if you stay with someone you don’t.</p>
<p>xxx<br />
Sarah</p>
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		<title>Calling All Ocean County, New Jersey, Girls!</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:06:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m coming your way for a Boyology GNO par-tay! If you&#8217;re around on October 6th (it&#8217;s a Tuesday) at 7:00pm stop by the Little Egg Harbor Library branch. You can register by calling 609-294-1197 or get more event details here. It&#8217;s a Girls Night Out and we&#8217;ll be talking about all things boy!
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		<title>Can You Call it &#8220;Dating&#8221; if You Don&#8217;t Go on &#8220;Dates?&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Sep 2009 14:28:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sarah B</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is a question for the ages. Is he your boyfriend if you just hang out? Are you really going out if you don&#8217;t actually go anywhere? Here&#8217;s my latest &#8220;dear sarah&#8221; column and I know you can all relate, whether you&#8217;re 14 or 34&#8230;
Your Question:
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/23299d1249984627-dating-vs-hanging-out-datingvshangingout.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-759" title="dating-vs-hanging-out" src="http://sarahburningham.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/23299d1249984627-dating-vs-hanging-out-datingvshangingout-300x282.jpg" alt="dating-vs-hanging-out" width="300" height="282" /></a>This is a question for the ages. Is he your boyfriend if you just hang out? Are you really going out if you don&#8217;t actually go anywhere? Here&#8217;s my latest <a href="http://community.abcfamily.go.com/blogs/secret-life-advice/dear-sarah-2" target="_blank">&#8220;dear sarah&#8221; column</a> and I know you can all relate, whether you&#8217;re 14 or 34&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>Your Question:</strong><br />
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 14 weeks now and we have never actually gone on a date at all. Is that O.K. or is it just plain weird?</p>
<p><strong>Dear Reader,</strong><br />
This is a question I get a lot! There&#8217;s a perception that &#8220;dating&#8221; means going out for sushi or to parties all the time, but really, that&#8217;s not usually the case. In fact, actual dates can be overrated. What really matters is that you&#8217;re having fun with your boyfriend &#8212; whether you&#8217;re studying or just hanging out watching &#8220;<a href="http://abcfamily.go.com/abcfamily/path/section_Shows+Secret-Life-Of-The-American-Teenager/page_Detail" target="_blank">The Secret Life of The American Teenager</a>.&#8221;</p>
<p>But, since you&#8217;ve been together for 14 weeks and it sounds like you want to go on a real date, you should make some fun plans for a night out. First step? Let your boyfriend know that you want to go on a date. Anytime you want anything in a relationship, you need to ask for it. No guy is a mind reader. Plus, he&#8217;ll probably appreciate the fact that you&#8217;re coming up with some ideas. Suggest a movie you think you&#8217;d both like or even an afternoon picnic. Remember that dates don&#8217;t have to be expensive to be fun!</p>
<p>xxx<br />
Sarah</p>
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