This is a question for the ages. Is he your boyfriend if you just hang out? Are you really going out if you don’t actually go anywhere? Here’s my latest “dear sarah” column and I know you can all relate, whether you’re 14 or 34…
Your Question:
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 14 weeks now and we have never actually gone on a date at all. Is that O.K. or is it just plain weird?
Dear Reader,
This is a question I get a lot! There’s a perception that “dating” means going out for sushi or to parties all the time, but really, that’s not usually the case. In fact, actual dates can be overrated. What really matters is that you’re having fun with your boyfriend — whether you’re studying or just hanging out watching “The Secret Life of The American Teenager.”
But, since you’ve been together for 14 weeks and it sounds like you want to go on a real date, you should make some fun plans for a night out. First step? Let your boyfriend know that you want to go on a date. Anytime you want anything in a relationship, you need to ask for it. No guy is a mind reader. Plus, he’ll probably appreciate the fact that you’re coming up with some ideas. Suggest a movie you think you’d both like or even an afternoon picnic. Remember that dates don’t have to be expensive to be fun!
xxx
Sarah
