We’ve all been there. It seems like everyone – even your neighbor’s pet poodle – has a special someone. What do you do when everyone has a boyfriend but you? That’s the topic of my latest dear sarah advice column on ABC Family…
Your Question:
My boyfriend just broke up with me … or maybe, I broke up with him? I’m not really sure exactly what happened really … but the point is: it’s over. And now I’m boyfriendless. All my friends have boyfriends. I’m always the single one. This guy, he was my first boyfriend since the 6th grade. And I’m in high school! Why don’t guys like me??
It just makes me feel really, pathetic! Like I’m some kind of failure. My friends always tell me, “Don’t worry, you just haven’t met the right guy yet.” But it’s easier for them. They have boyfriends. When everyone is going to the dance, or it’s Valentine’s Day, or the school is selling flowers for a fund raiser, they have nothing to worry about.
It just makes me wonder, is there something wrong with me? Is that why there aren’t any guys who like me?
I’m in HIGH SCHOOL. I should be getting a new boyfriend practically every week. But not even the losers like me.
~Freak and don’t know it?
Dear Reader:
Sometimes, being boyfriend-less can intensify the feeling that everyone in the world has a boyfriend. But just because you don’t have one at the moment doesn’t mean you’re a freak or pathetic. A lot of girls tie their self-worth to their relationship status. But it’s important to know how to be single — that’s when you find out the most about yourself, which is a key to a good relationship. In the end, having a boyfriend isn’t going to solve all your problems.
As for feeling like no one likes you, I can tell you from experience that it’s either feast or famine when it comes to guys liking you. I swear it will happen when you least expect it. In the meantime, go out and have some fun with your friends (and their boyfriends!). Not every night is date night. And who knows who you’ll meet while you’re out having a good time.
Have fun!
Sarah
