Sarah Burningham: Author

Here’s your weekly Ask Sarah B sesh. Remember if you want to ask a question and get some advice, you can email me at: AskSarahB@gmail.com

Question:
My best friend broke up with her boyfriend a few weeks ago and he just asked our other friend to go out with him. And our other friend said yes! So my one friend is all upset that she’s betraying her friendship and the other friend says she really likes the guy but how can she if he was with our other friend for so long? I’m stuck in the middle and I don’t want to pick sides. What should I do?

- Mia

Sarah Says:
Dear Mia,
Feeling stuck in the middle of two friends is a terrible feeling – especially because you care about both friends and it’s hard to see them fight. Not wanting to pick sides is definitely the right way to go – this is a problem between your two friends and doesn’t involve you. You’re smart to stay out of it.

That being said, both friends might be trying to drag you into it by talking about the other friend behind her back or asking you to be the go-between. Try to avoid any gossiping and if you get stuck in a situation where you feel like you’re getting pulled into it, stop the conversation. You can do this by saying something flat out, like, "I don’t know – I don’t want to get in the middle," or you can divert the conversation by sending a text to another friend about something totally different or suggesting that the two of you go do something like see a movie. Sometimes a diversion is the best tactic because it changes the direction of the conversation completely.

I can tell you’re a good friend just by your email. I know it’s hard when friendships go through rough times but you can do it. If one of your friend’s pushes you to side against the other, remind her that you’re there for her, but that you can be a good friend to both of them.

Good luck!

xoxo
Sarah B

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