This is the first of a recurring feature I’m going to do on my blog. I have tons of cool teenagers who email me with questions about their lives–everything from their parents getting divorced to dying their hair to telling they boy they like how they feel. And since I know a lot of you are wondering the same things, I’m going to share at least one question (and answer) a week. Here’s the first of many…
Question:
So I like this boy and have for about 4 years! I know. I am in almost all his classes, I go to the same church…I
see him everywhere. I am really afraid to tell him I like
him myself. I don’t want to flat out ask him out,
because then I will be heartbroken if he says no. I think he likes this other
girl in my class but I am not sure. She like him, though, its so obvious. She
is pretty and everything. I don’t know what to do.
Should I tell him I like him?
Should I try to forget him?
Get my friend to ask him?
I am kinda shy so I don’t know if I would be able to tell him…
–Kelly
Kelly, It’s great to hear from you! I’m so glad you wrote. I remember in High School and
college, really crushing on boys and not knowing what the next step
was. Sometimes I’d give out enough hints they’d end up asking me out,
and sometimes nothing happened. I think in the end, the best way I
handled it was when I was upfront with both myself and the guy and told
him I was interested. I know there’s no guarantee that it will work, in
fact a lot of times it didn’t work out at all for me. But there’s
something really liberating about knowing what you want, and asking for
it. I can’t promise he’ll like you back, but I will say this, you won’t
regret a missed chance if you decide to take the risk and tell him how
you feel. One thing to remember, if he can’t recognize what a catch you
are, you can do better anyway.
Good luck with however you play it. Let me know how it goes.
xoxo
Sarah B
**Note: the names of all teenagers in the "Ask Sarah B" section have been changed to protect individual’s privacy
